When you go out with someone who is different origins than you, you learn a new way of seeing the world. You learn everything about their food, religion, and values.
I’ve always had a severe case of wanderlust…. Of course, it is because I enjoy the travel. But the real reason is because I love new cultures. I love to learn about the ways of life of people and their traditions.
As you probably know, I’ve had my fair share of dates, and I’m a free-spirited thinker when it comes to sex. Especially if we live in an adult world – I don’t judge others, and I don’t like to be judged. Sex is one thing, and romance is another COMPLETELY different.
Falling in love is complicated enough already… Falling in love with someone from a different culture? How does that work?
Today, couples formed by people from different ethnic groups or different cultures are not unusual, as many singles mingle without fear of color, religion or family ties.
Often, our customs and ways of seeing life are very different from those of singles from other countries because depending on their origin, everyone will have beliefs and social norms. These circumstances -if there is love and affection- do not represent an added problem, but often a “multicultural” couple can meet small setbacks.
No borders for love
To fall in love with a foreigner is perhaps the desire of many. To live a romance with a person from other borders becomes something adventurous, different and with a lot of passion involved.
I think it is a totally rewarding experience, to “fall in love” in general, but your soulmate being from another country has a different challenge… In terms of understanding and multiculturalism, it is a beauty! Often, the social codes that are handled in one country or another are quite different, which means constant understanding and neverending learning!
A fairytale made for two
The sunsets are unique, the hours turn into days and weeks into months … Sipping chai can become the most romantic story of your life, spicing up on chilaquiles, any excuses are perfect for getting together and sink into an adventure of love, where no language or flag is required.
Wherever you and your soulmate are from, it is possible that your customs and religions are very different. Try to learn from the other’s religion, take as a reference both are based on the same: love and respect. And have your cross-cultural love learn about your culture too: things that are accepted, things that are not and your familiar values.
If you base your relationship from the start on the reality that you were educated differently, you’ll adapt to whatever challenge comes your way.
It is not rare that you get frustrated at how different your ideas are. But it is more important to let love rule and reach a middle ground.
The traditions and customs of a country are an essential part of the cultural identity of a person. Culture is the way a person expresses his joy, his faith, his sadness or his honor, that is, as expresses its interiority. Therefore, it is important to know about these customs and traditions in order to share them together.
Consider the different ways of celebrating festivals: in some countries they dance. In others, eating and singing in public ceremonies.
For example, the Day of the Dead in Mexico is celebrated by celebrating death itself, which not everybody understands. In India, Diwali is a festival of lights to celebrate a new cycle.
As you probably know, I dated outside my culture too once, with a man who broke my heart precisely because of his culture. Fall at the idea that he could not betray his family and marry outside Hindu traditions.
For many people, family approval is very important when dating or bringing someone home. And the fear of them making bad faces to the one you love is not unusual!
Physical, cultural and religious differences are just some of the challenges they face interracial couples very often, especially at the beginning of their relationship.
Having a different skin color does not make you good or bad. What makes a person different are their values, beliefs, and family traditions. There are many things you have to learn and respect the other. More than biracial, you will have a multicultural relationship. And for your relationship to be great, both should try to learn as much as possible the culture of the other, and accept their beliefs and traditions, including the family.
Unfortunately, there are many people who do not want their family dating outside of their race or religion. In the end, it’s you who will decide. This is something that will be a test for both. The more you love each other, the better you will cope with it, and build a stronger relationship with it.
Usually, the stay of a foreigner in any country does not exceed 6 months. Whether it is for travel, study or work internship, it doesn’t last. You are getting to see everything around you. All that it means is that the passion of a long-term relationship is condensed in every minute you spend together. Because it might end sooner than you think.
It’s very funny what happens at the beginning with all the endless romance and “honeymoon phase” where often one is against the clock. Perhaps you are passing through, traveling on vacation, to study for a semester, to work for a year, or plan to settle to live eventually.
Be clear to establish what you want and expect from the beginning.
If you want to do something, this is the time! Don’t be afraid to let go of your fears and tell that person how much you like them… It may only be for a few weeks!
Have you ever been in love with anyone from another culture or country? Are you still in touch?
In conclusion, the borders of the mind and heart are open enough to accept the differences and share them. Cross-cultural relationships are not only possible but very rewarding. I know that this is so and that this is also an opportunity to learn. As in any relationship, the key is to rely on the common elements and not let differences.
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