Being an unmarried professional in my twenties, talking about sex with anyone, you don’t know how many times I’ve heard:
“You need to value yourself"
“Good girls don’t do that"
“But… you don’t want to be called a slut!"
And you know what? I think it’s enough with the judgment! People are allowed to own their bodies in the way they want. For years now, we’ve heard that having sex is good. And we’ve also heard that having sex is not good. The truth is… As long as it’s voluntary, it is not up to anyone else but yourself to decide if its good or not.
It’s no discovery that everybody has a different body, and that people choose to express in different ways. The one who have seen my pictures, know that I don’t only have a liberal view on the human body. This means that I do not consider it “offensive" when people showcase their bodies as part of an image meant to represent a context.
Talking about bodies – My body is curvy. Thick. Fat. Full. Chubby. – However you choose to call it.
Of that, I am not ashamed, and on the contrary, it is something I love, because I know I am in full control of what I do and how I present myself. But it is also very discouraging when I post pictures in a swimsuit, with a tank top, or with a tight shirt. Both friends and strangers alike call me “overexposed" or “too sexy". It’s not the same when slim girls put their pictures up in a bikini, because their small breasts and tiny waists are “aesthetical".
I won’t apologize, and I won’t be disrespected for being who I am.
The dick pics
With the new wave of internet image sharing and social networks, it’s pretty easy to get caught up in sexting. I have news for you: IT’S NO BIG DEAL.
Whether you choose to share your images or not, it’s YOUR choice. But there’s also a tricky part: it has to be the choice of the other person too. On my Instagram DM, I receive a lot of dick pics. WHY? Because many people don’t understand that ANY sexual act must be CONSENSUAL. So basically, this is virtual rape. Nobody wants to see your dick, it’s not a pretty sight. When a woman wants to see it, she will let you know.
Sex for all
When it comes to sex and your body, it’s always YOU who will make a decision. Don’t let anyone (man or woman) push you into doing something that you don’t want to do. And if you do it, don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed of what, how, how many, and who.
We no longer live in the era where we became “damaged", and had to marry at 15 before anyone could know. Make your own choices, but ALWAYS BE SAFE!
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